We are experiencing a bit of an early summer, which is all kinds of wonderful. The weather is fabulous but I’m not completely thrilled about the “open door policy” that comes with the sun and heat. It’s not the kind of friendly and voluntary “open door policy” that I’m sure you’re  thinking of. It’s the kind where our door is always open because no one can remember to CLOSE THE DOOR.

It’s that special time of year were insects and rodents take up residence in our home because my kids never CLOSE THE DOOR. It’s not that hard; You remembered to open it before you tried to walk through it, now please, CLOSE THE DOOR. You are skilled and coordinated enough to open the door, so I know you are physically capable enough to CLOSE THE DOOR. 

If I’ve said it once, I’ve said it a thousand times, but I have to be real careful about not yelling it, since as I previously mentioned, the door is wide open. The neighbors have to think I’m a crazy lady at this point, so I’m not sure why I try to keep up the charade of “normal-completely-sane-person-who-doesn’t-yell ‘CLOSE THE DOOR!’ every -3-minutes.” I’m living a lie, because that’s not the woman I am. I’ve been forced to wear these crazy pants and they actually fit quite well.

It’s not just the constant indecision between playing inside or playing outside that causes the tiresome slide of the patio door. It’s the running commentary I receive on every thing that my children experience while playing outside.

*slide* “Mom! The bumble bee is back!”

*slide* “Mom! We found a dead June bug!”

*slide* “Mom! We filled your garden with sand!”

*slide* “Mom! Nolan ate an ant!”

I’m experiencing most of these happenings in real time as I constantly poke my head out of the door to ensure that no one has expired or done irreparable damaged to the exterior of our home. So logistically, I don’t need to hear about the June bug for the fourth time. I can appreciate the sense of wonder that comes from being a child, but is it asking too much for efficiency in wonderment? Could they save up three exciting insect sightings and then open the door (probably still inviting at least one of said insects into our lovely home) instead of reporting each one independently? It would cut the door openings by a third. I don’t want to be the efficiency-over-fun Mom, but I’m already the neighborhood crazy person, so I’m feeling pretty good about starting the lessons in efficiency early. 

Lesson one: CLOSE THE DOOR.

5 Ways Parenting Toddlers is Like a Day at the Beach

If you are currently in the trenches parenting toddlers, it goes without saying that you could use a vacation. Unfortunately, you might not be able to escape for that much needed R&R. Fear not; your toddlers can bring the vacation to you! Kick back and relax, here are five ways that parenting toddlers is likea day at the beach.

1) The feeling of sand between your toes.
Don’t you love stepping onto the beach, barefoot, and feeling the sun-warmed sand between your toes? Having toddlers is a similar sensation, only it’s the soft crunch of Cheerios beneath your feet and the feeling of tiny pieces of everything-your-child-ate-today between your toes. Why go to the beach when your toddler can create a sand-like experience covering your entire kitchen floor? Every meal is a new experience, a new sensation. Might I recommend day-old dried peas combined with crusted who-knows-how-old Playdoh crumbs? Pure paradise!

2) The sound of waves crashing against the shore.

The repetitive and soothing sound of loud waves crashing into the shore is universally relaxing. There’s a reason ocean sounds are included on most white noise machines; they drown out other noises and offer a sense of calm and focus. The constant dialogue and questions that toddlers emit can offer an equivalent sensation. Since toddlers will summon you no less than ten times, you can relax to the therapeutic soundtrack of “Mommy? Mommy? Mommy? Mommy? Mommmmmy!” Or “What’s that? What’s that? What’s that? What’s that?! What’s that?!” Much like the lapping waves at the seashore, your toddler’s questions can take you to a place of serenity and calm. As you learn to drown out the noise, (wine also helps with this) you’ll eventually start imagining yourself on a beach. Without toddlers. And more wine. Voila, vacation!

3) Long walks searching for seashells.

The quest for a delicate unscathed seashell is a challenge, as the force of the ocean and its journey to the shore often shatters or damages most shells. It’s the search to find beauty in the rough. Living with a toddler is similar, in that they will destroy everything that you own and hold dear. Searching for a piece of unstained clothing, a pair of unbroken sunglasses, or a book without a freaking page ripped out can give you the same sense of delight as a peaceful hunt for shells on the beach. Such a satisfying scavenger hunt!

4) Easy breezy wind-blown beach hair.

When you hit the beach, it’s time to let your hair down and feel the breeze flow through your locks. Beach hair is a natural and effortless look that you can also accomplish by caring for toddlers day in and day out. Usually you’re too tired to shower, so your hair takes on a matted and tangled texture sure to impress. Combine this with the number of airborne foods your hair will intercept and you’ve mastered a style similar to that casual and simple beach look. Your wind-blown beach waves will be easy to pull together, since most days your brush will get stuck in your hair (probably on some yogurt or applesauce). So just scrunch it a bit while your toddler tugs on the other side and you’ll have instant trouble-free tropical tresses!

5) The fresh ocean air.

You know that smell unique to the ocean, a combination of salt water, sea weed, fresh air and freedom? Having toddlers kind of smells like that, only what you’re really smelling is poop. It always smells like poop. So maybe this isn’t that similar to the beach. I just wanted to remind you that having toddlers smells a lot like poop, all the time.

So suit up ladies! Although I’m guessing that since having kids you probably dread wearing a swimsuit. A smock or just your bathrobe would be fine too. Ain’t life a beach?

3 Reasons I let my kids watch Frozen

There is a lot of Frozen in my life right now. This might be a cry for adult conversation or television targeted at people over the age of 5. Whatever it is, I’ve found myself appreciating the themes and messages in Frozen and have compiled a list for your reading pleasure.


Spoiler alert: The song “Let It Go” is no where on this list. As I previously posited, you might love it after the first few listens, but after you find yourself singing it in the shower for the 419th time, it becomes much less amusing. Get out of my (very limited) brain space! As much as I love my daughter’s sweet singing, after hearing her screech it out (with the wrong words) countless times every day, it starts to wear on you. 

1) Frozen portrays love more realistically than other Disney movies.

A common theme in Disney movies is “love at first sight” and whirlwind romances where people fall madly in love very quickly. I’m inclined to think love is portrayed this way, at least in part, for convenience in a 90 minute movie. But I also know that love seems so much more romantic when it is reckless, unrestrained and unabashed. We all know (Don’t we?) that’s not how it works. In today’s “Bachelor” culture, I’m starting to think people may actually think that’s what love looks like. I certainly don’t want to give my children such unrealistic expectations, or have them make lifelong relationship decisions based on an elated feeling after a handsome stranger returns a lost shoe, or gives you a rape-y sleep kiss. (I didn’t say you could kiss me, dude. I’m in a magically induced coma and we’ve never met. Get up off it.)

I don’t some of their first impressions of romantic love to set unrealistic expectations. I don’t want them to miss out on true meaningful human connections and imperfect but genuine love because they’re waiting for a grand gesture or great romance.

I want my kids to know that in real life, love comes from truly getting to know someone, finding out what is most irritating about them, and then deciding that other people are more irritating. That’s real love. In Frozen, Anna meets Hans, immediately “falls in love” and becomes engaged. In what seems to be an interesting commentary on other Disney movies, all of Frozen’s  main characters completely disagree with this decision. Krisftoff brings it up numerous times by questioning her judgment, since she’s the kind of person willing to get engaged to someone she just met. Elsa refuses to “bless” their union for the same reason. Anna spends most of the movie trying to justify her rash decision with “true love,” despite all the other characters constant jabs that mock the notion of “true love” between strangers. The message, even before any of the predictable plot twists, is that “love at first sight” is irrational. 

2) Frozen reminds us that all people are not good people.

Big surprise, Hans ends up being a bit of a sociopath, which most of us should have picked up on the minute he proposed to a woman he just met. Ever met a guy genuinely willing to commit to marriage after a first date? If you have, he was probably later featured on 60 minutes after it was discovered that he had 4 wives in 4 different states while simultaneously running a Ponzi scheme that kills kittens. It doesn’t add up, y’all.

I like that the antagonist in Frozen is a real person. He’s not a witch, or a beast, or a sorcerer; He is a real person with ulterior motives and aspirations of power. He uses Anna, lies to her and manipulates her. While I hope this never happens to my kids, it certainly could, which is why I don’t mind them seeing it happen to a movie character.

I’m all about protecting my children’s innocence, to a certain extent. I’m not interested in exposing my children to harsh realities before their little brains are ready to process them, but I also don’t mind the idea of them knowing that all people aren’t good people, and some people lie. Sure Hans is mean, and says hurtful things to Anna, but that’s real life. People won’t always tell you the truth, and it’s not a bad idea to guard your heart. One of the best ways to do this, is to avoid getting engaged the same day you meet someone. Also, rigorous background checks.

I’m sure I’m coming across as a cynic here, and I’m ok with that. If you think I’m too cynical, you probably also think Beauty and the Beast is romantic, a movie where a woman is held captive, developes Stockholm Syndrome and lives happily ever after with her captor. We can agree to disagree.

3) Frozen shows us that true love does exist.

I’m not dead inside. I do believe in love and happy endings. The final reason I like Frozen is because it shows us that true love does exist. It’s not a prince coming to save you, it’s not romance saving your life and completing you. Elsa accidentally freezes Anna’s heart and only an act of true love can save her. This is when she must quickly return to Hans for a kiss, because true love’s kiss heals all. Unfortunately, she finds out Hans is just a youngest child with delusions of grandure and no real affections or plans for marriage beyond spousal homicide. It’s a rough breakup. 

A selfless act from Anna and the true love that exists between sisters is what finally saves her. True love does exist, between family and friends, and yes, romantic partners with whom we’ve invested the time and energy to get to know. True love requires self-sacrifice, it is not selfish or self involved. True love is not about how it makes you feel, but about how you want the best for the other person. Olaf, the lovable dope of a snowman, ends up offering the most insight, saying that true love is putting someone else’s needs before your own. That’s a message I can get on board with, even if the messenger has twig arms and a carrot for a nose.

When Twin-Speak Happens.

I’ve had a lot of strangers say some terribly bizarre and borderline offensive things to me simply because I have twins. As someone regularly guilty of “word vomit,” where it just comes out and I’m left staring the horrifying verbal mess I’ve made, I usually try and give people the benefit of the doubt. I like to consider myself fairly laid back in my approach to being offended. 99% of the time I’m just mildly irritated and I move on quickly from most interactions with an internal eye roll. It took four years and a very ambitious offender, but someone finally managed to actually offend me. I’ll get to that in a minute.

People are fascinated with twins. I get that. While twins and multiple births are much more common than they used to be, they are still a bit of a rarity, so I came to expect some unwanted attention. When I was pregnant with the twins, I never voluntarily surrendered the information that I was carrying twins, mostly because I wanted to keep conversations with strangers as brief as possible. Also, I learned quickly that once that information was out there, the conversations got LONG and WEIRD.

Most people have really kind things to say or encouragement and awe for how difficult it must be to have two babies. Those comments, while lovely and well-received, aren’t nearly as entertaining as the more rare but thoughtless ones. Much like my own problem with “word-vomit,” I think people come down with “twin-speak.” This term usually refers to the “languages” that sets of twins come up with to communicate with only each other. In this case, I’m using it to reference the  mind fog and verbal diarrhea that occasionally overcomes people when they are presented with a set of twins. 

For the sake of general enlightenment and, hopefully, your reading pleasure, I’ve compiled a list of common comments made to mothers of multiples and ranked their offensiveness level based on my own subjective perceptions. Essentially, this list has no real factual or scientific value. Fasten your seat belts, it’s about to get a little snarky in here.

How far along are you? It’s pretty common for strangers to ask how far along you are when they notice you’re pregnant, whether with a singleton or multiples. This carries an offense level of 1, only because it always carries the risk that the person you’re asking is not actually pregnant. Should this be the case, and you’ve just asked a woman who is not pregnant how far along she is, it sky-rockets to a 10 and you should sprint away immediately. Tread cautiously with this one; Or just don’t try and engage strangers in conversations on their gestation at all. 

Wow! You look ready to pop! Subsidiaries of this comment also include Whoa, are you due tomorrow?! Or Are you sure there’s only one in there?! I know none of you would ever say this to a friend or stranger, because you’re all respectable folks intelligent enough to realize that all of these comments have informed the pregnant recipient that you think she looks ginormous. This carries an offense level of 4. I’m moderately irritated with you, but can get over it quickly by making rude comments about the commenter’s appearance in own my head. Since I heard comments on my size quite regularly, this was typically  when I would clarify that I was, in fact, carrying two babies.99% of the time, this was when the conversations got weird. 

Oh, twins! Did you struggle with infertility?  Annnnnnd it just got weird. Most of you would never dream of prying into someone’s personal and deeply private life in this way, but since I’ve been asked this about 7,965,875 times, I have to assume people are mostly well intentioned when inquiring. That being said, I’m not sure what kind of response people are looking for. You are a stranger and have just asked me about my reproductive health. Over the years I’ve mentally prepared a number of responses to this question, including “How was your last Pap smear? Oh, is that too personal? I thought maybe you could share some things about your vagina, since you just asked about mine.” Or “What’s the most difficult or emotionally devestating experience you’ve been through? Oh, you don’t wish to share that with me, the random pregnant person in line with you at Target? Well, neither do I.”  Of course I’ve never actually used any of my cleverly crafted retorts in real life; I typically just change the subject for both our sakes. See, most people are just genuinely curious. However, being curious about something doesn’t make it appropriate for you to inquire about it. I don’t ask the amputee I see out in public if it still feels like his leg is there, or the testicular cancer survivor how everything “works” post-op. I’m curious, no doubt, but it’s none of my business. And honestly, if a stranger just started surrendering that information to you without you asking, it would be straight-up awkward. This is about a 5 on the offense scale for me. Not because you have offended me to the core of my being, but because you put me in a really uncomfortable situation simply because you are curious. Now run along and go be awkward elsewhere. 

Are they natural? “No, they’re cyborgs that we genetically modified to have wolverine claws. We think that will really aid in self-feeding and independence. While they were cooking them up, we thought, go ahead and make two right away and shove ‘Em on up there!” So this question actually bothers me a bit. It’s really the same as the previous question, in that you are prying into my reproductive health, but you think that using the term “natural” somehow makes your intrusion more palatable. It’s not. You are still a creepy random stranger, only now you’ve implied that babies conceived through reproductive assistance or technology are somehow “unnatural.” Babies are babies and it doesn’t matter how they get here. Would you ask, “So how did you conceive? A good ol’ fashioned roll in the hay? Was it an accident? Do you know who the father is?” No. No one asks a mother carrying one baby how they conceived. Having two in my uterus doesn’t make it ok for you to ask me. Yes, twins are special. Whether they were spontaneous or conceived with reproductive assistance, they’re still special…and it’s still none of your business. This is an offense level 6, because what the heck is a “natural” baby anyway? I’m not mad at you, I just don’t want to talk to you anymore.

Are they identical? You’re right, this is not offensive in the slightest. The only reason I included it is because it becomes a level 2 on the offensive scale when you argue with my answer. If you ask me and I tell you, as their mother,that they are not identical, then you believe me. A random stranger with an opinion that my twins look so much alike, that they must be identical, is not going to convince me that such is the truth. 

I’ll walk through this slowly. My twins are a boy and a girl. No matter how much you think they look alike (they don’t) they cannot be identical. (This isn’t entirely true, as b/g twins could technically and extremely rarely be identical if the female has Turner Syndrome, but unless you’re a geneticist you wouldn’t wander around the grocery store inquiring about this.) So when you ask a twin mom, “are they identical?” And she says, “No. They are a boy and a girl, so they are fraternal.” And you reply with “Are you sure? They look identical!” You reallllllly temp me to embarrass you by pointing out, “One has a penis, and one has a vagina. I’m certain they are not identical.” Especially if you’re a nurse at my children’s pediatrician’s office. And especially if you said “Are they identical or paternal?” Let’s all make sure we know what we’re talking about before we start, Mmkay? 

Most people laugh at themselves after they get the answer on this one. ::Palm Slap:: “Duh. Of course they’re not identical! Silly me!”  Then we both chuckle and move on with our lives. I encountered a gentleman at the pharmacy once, when I had my twin babies in tow. He started by questioning if they were identical. Since people were constantly mistaking my daughter for a boy, I clarified, “well they’re a girl and a boy so they’re fraternal.” And I gave him a polite “now let’s both run along so I can get my infant ibuprofen and you can go get your anti-itch ointment” smile. He wasn’t in a hurry, so he continued, “Are you sure they aren’t identical?! They look exactly the same!” I was in a hurry. In case you forgot, I’m the lady at the pharmacy with two babies in this scenario. So I patiently responded “No, they’re definitely fraternal. I don’t really have a hard time telling them apart.” Smile, turn slightly, signalling with body language that the conversation is coming to an end…He jumps right back in, “well how do you tell them apart?!?” Baffled I even had to answer this question for him, I replied, “I take their diapers off.” So this specific scenario counts as a level 2, since it required I discuss my  infants’ genitals with a stranger.

I saved the best for last. As previously mentioned, it took a solid four years for someone to score a 10. We were having our furnace serviced and I was home with my three monkeys when the furnace fixer fellow arrived. “Are they all yours?!” He said as he saw my kids having a snack at the table. Thinking that maybe he had double vision or perhaps interpreted the noise of my house to mean more children than there actually were, I replied, “Well, it’s just the three, and yes there all mine.” It was clear to me we weren’t going to be BFFs. He followed up with “Three is quite a few! It’s a whole troop.” I worked through his annoying commentary on the number of children I chose to bring into the world and managed a forced smile and half-hearted chuckle. “They look real close together too.” He observed. It was true. We had three kids in 2.5 years, so I mentioned, “the older two are twins, so we got a two for one that time around.” I had played the twin card so I knew the conversation could go any number of directions at this point, but I never anticipated the direction he was heading. “Oh, twins! My wife always said she thought twins would be cool, but if she ever actually had them, she’d probably shoot herself.

I’ll just let that marinate for a while.

Well marinated?

Ok good. Let’s reflect. So this man, came into my home and told me, in front of my three children, twins included, that if his wife ever had twins, she’d kill herself. Apart from discussing the ending of one’s life violently with a firearm, which is never appropriate to discuss in front of toddlers, you informed both them and me that having twins would be the impetus for such a rash and horrific act. I simply didn’t respond to him because I was pinching myself to make sure this was real life. I’d never been made to feel like this before, by a stranger. Annoyed, irritated, befuddled, I’ve felt those things, but angry? This was a first! I was angry that he thought that was ok, to imply that having two beautiful children in the same gestation would be so horrible that I would end my life. I was angry that he implied that kids, especially more than one, were a hassle and irritation. Implying that I had not cried and begged and prayed for these children. Angry, that he said that in front of my children who clearly heard and understood what he was saying. Angry that he could make them feel anything less than wanted and dearly loved, simply because they arrived in this world at the same time. Angry that I couldn’t think of an appropriate way to communicate that to him, and angry that he still had to hang around and fix my furnace. Be gone, furnace man!

We should all slow clap for this guy, who managed to score a 10 on my offensive scale, a feat not to be taken lightly. His comment put all the slightly annoying questions into perspective and immediately downgraded them to a level 1. 

So I’ll happily answer your questions and curiosities, all you future strangers brave enough to approach my loud crew in public. I can’t promise I won’t do a mental eye roll or two, but I recognize and appreciate that you think my twins are interesting, special, fascinating, a blessing. Because they absolutely are. 

If You Teach a Toddler to Fish…

My husband took our twins ice fishing. No, you heard me correctly. I love my husband, but clearly not enough to discourage him from taking my two 3 year olds off my hands for the day.

When my husband goes ice fishing, he likes to get an early start so he can savor the daylight hours and get in as much fishing as possible. So his plan for the day started with him waking them up nearly an hour early. I was kind enough to gently express some concerns about bringing mildly sleep deprived toddlers ice fishing for an entire day, but I was quickly admonished. 

“They’ll sleep during the hour drive up north.” He told me. Oh, that’s cute. You have two wired toddlers loaded up into your truck, ready to pee their pants (which they’re likely to do anyway) with excitement over the idea of ice fishing. They’re not going to sleep. The first rule of toddlers is: They never sleep when you want them to. The second rule of toddlers is: never wake a sleeping toddler, and the third rule of toddlers is: AHHHHHHHH! Stop talking about sleeping, you’re going to jinx it!

Ok.” I said in reply. Who was I to argue? I had a day with only one child to care for in my sights and I wasn’t going to risk ruining that by trying to give my husband helpful advice like, “by the way, our daughter usually poops about 3 times before lunch, so have fun with that out in the middle of an ice covered lake!” He’d figure it out, right? “I’ll see you all tonight! Have a fun day!” I said with a smile, as I shoved them out the door and locked it behind them.

Freedom! It was only about three hours later that I got a text that read “I can’t handle another minute of whining! Maybe I’ll try this again when they’re eight.” I resisted the urge to reply, “Welcome to my world, Daddy. I’ve changed the locks and won’t open the doors until our previously agreed upon evening return time, so don’t even think about packing it up and coming home.” Ends up, toddlers aren’t super keen on sitting and doing nothing while they wait for a fish to bite their line. But who could have predicted that?

On the other hand, little dude and I spent the day running errands in record time and remarkable silence. I’d forgotten what it was like to go to the store without fielding 700 questions from the peanut gallery about why we aren’t going to be purchasing ice cream cones or pop tarts. Then, after nap, we kind of just looked at a each other for a while and twiddled our thumbs. I’m not going to lie to you; it was amazing. 

I did feel guilty for a hot second, thinking of my sweet husband and our beautiful children out on the cold ice, attempting to snag fish for sport. I feigned a few “So how’s it going?” messages to satisfy my morbid curiosity. They eventually settled in and snagged a few trophy fish.  Which I’m told they promptly complained about not being able to immediately eat. 

Their day on the ice concluded with my son stepping in one of the holes in the ice and one really cold foot. Daddy brought them home at bedtime very soggy and completely exhausted. My daughter put on her pajamas, climbed into her own bed and literally put herself to sleep. In that moment, as I stood watching that scene with mouth agape, I’m pretty sure I heard angels singing. All the great mysteries of parenting and toddler psychology were clarified before my eyes, and I’d be selfish not to impart that wisdom to all of you:

If you give a toddler a fish, he’ll whine about not being able to eat it. If you teach a toddler to fish, OMG THEY COME HOME EXHAUSTED AND GO RIGHT TO BED. 

Seriously, let it go.

I did it. I ignored the warnings of those that had gone before me, those that had already traveled to this point of no return. I let my kids watch Frozen.

My nearly four year old twins sat through the whole thing, which was nearly a miracle in itself. It was enough for me to initially think, “This isn’t so bad! Maybe they’re old enough for movies now, maybe we could even go to the theatre!” Initially. Now that Frozen is all my daughter can talk about, I am revising some of my original thoughts.

My son was entertained. My daughter was enthralled. She immediately began referring to herself as “Elsa,” and nonconsensually referring to her brother as “Anna.” She insisted I drape a blanket, secured with a chip-clip, around her shoulders so she could wear a cape. I regularly catch her spinning and singing as she throws imaginary icicles out of her fingers. She wanted cape and long hair, like Elsa, so she put a fitted sheet on her head. Two birds, one stone. Then her brothers thought, “hey that looks fun.” Next thing I know I’ve got Elsa, Anna and Olaf running laps in my hallway. 

I’m constantly fielding questions like, “but why is Anna’s hair another color?” Or “why did Elsa run away?” I’m regularly explaining the major plot points to people who have seen the movie at least 4 times. I mean, three years old or thirty, you see a movie 4 times, you shouldn’t have this many questions. 

Those questions are at least factual in nature. I have more difficulty answering questions like “Why does Elsa have a cape? When will my hair be yellow like Elsa’s? But where does her magic come from? Why can’t I make snowflakes?” Go ahead, try and explain the answers to those questions to a toddler. Curse you, Frozen! You’ve given us more questions than answers!

If you or your children have had the pleasure of viewing Frozen, then you are well aware of the most profusely problematic side effect; the flesh eating brain mole “Let It Go.” It will burrow a hole into your mind and ironically, you will NOT be able to let it go. It will slip into your mind while you’re driving, you’ll be humming it while you’re making dinner, you will be spinning through the house and singing it dramatically. And then you’ll be left wondering why you were spinning through the house and singing it dramatically. 

My daughter asks to watch it on the regular. We don’t watch movies that often, and I feel a bit bad for my son who much prefers other films when the rare opportunity to have a movie night pops up. His twin sister already forces him to pretend he’s Anna to her Elsa, when I’m confident he’d rather be spear tackling her or smashing a tower someone else has built. 

It’s my own fault. I assumed my daughter was immune to Disney’s charms, but Frozen is toddler crack and I willingly handed it over to my children. I was never angling for a Mother of the Year award, but I had hoped to protect my children from crippling addictions prior to the age of four.

I’m telling you to do what I could not. What your kids don’t know, can’t hurt them. They won’t know that they “need” an Elsa braid wig. They won’t know that they “need” to watch Frozen whenever they possibly can.  You won’t, at age 31, end up singing yourself to sleep to a Disney soundtrack. I’m telling you to just say no. I’m telling you to let it go.